An Open Letter to All the Boys I’ve Loved Before
A young lady has gone through three different relationships and cherished all of them. She has articulated her learnings from these relationships, fully aware that these have made her into the woman that she is today. That’s self love.
Yce’s Lessons in an Epistle
Three different people, three different relationships, and three different life lessons.
He taught me pain.
We were together for 5 years. He was my first boyfriend. He was the first guy I brought home to meet my family. We shared many “firsts” with each other. He was also the first one to give me my first heartache.
He taught me love.
Few months after the first breakup, I jumped into a new relationship with another guy. He made me believe in forever. He taught me everything about love and relationships.
But he also taught me one painful lesson, if you really love the person, sometimes it’s best to let them go. We both believed that what we had was far too good to ever continue.
He taught me patience.
I rushed to be in a relationship again. Our past, insecurities, and ego always got in the way. I tried to secure him as much as I could but you can only do so much until you hit your breaking point. It was a good run even though the relationship didn’t last long.
Past Relationships and Loving Again
I have always been in a relationship ever since I was 16. When one relationship ends, I always rush to be with someone new because of fear of being alone.
But with every heartache, I am left with a different level of strength that I carry with me. All these experiences made me realize one thing–nobody can make anyone happy unless we become happy with ourselves first. We have to learn to live alone because we can’t be a good partner unless we secure ourselves.
But until then, until I meet the person who’s on the same path as I am, I have to work on becoming the best version of myself. I’ll make the most of my time to grow, evolve, and be inspired in knowing what I really wanted in life.
So when love finds me again, I’ll be strong and mature enough to give it another chance.
About the Author
Yce Cabalbag is now 27 years old. She is a graduate of BS Industrial Engineering from the University of Santo Tomas. She is currently working as a Business Analyst in a creative process outsourcing company.
Off work, she is a “seatizen”. She loves to go surfing on weekends, traveling to where the waves are, to learn to skate, and play the ukelele.
Note: All photos were provided by Yce Cabalbag for use in this blog post.