What is the Pygmalion effect? Have you ever heard of it? Learn about what it is and how it can affect your marriage. It could go either ways, so discover how you can use it for good.
Discover the Pygmalion Effect and How It Can Affect Your Marriage
The Pygmalion Effect actually started from Greek mythology–our favorite examples for love and passion.
You can read from notes online that it came from the story of the artist Pygmalion who believed that women are capable of doing bad things. So he swore against women and committed to becoming single for life.
In his lonesome, however, he carved a statue of the perfect woman and eventually fell in love with his creation. Call it crazy, if you will, but he gave his love and adoration to the statue.
Eventually, he prayed to the goddess Venus for the image to become a real person. Since Venus is the goddess of love, she granted that man’s fervent desire. Indeed, the statue came to life and the two got married.
How Can the Pygmalion Effect Affect Your Relationship with Your Spouse?
So, how does the Pygmalion Effect fit into your marriage?
First, ask yourself these self-assessment questions.
- Is your marriage in trouble
- Has spouse lost the passion?
- Are you stuck in a lifeless and unproductive marriage?
If you have answered yes to all the questions, then discover how the Pygmalian effect can help your marriage. Here are the ways:
Keeping the Faith in Your Spouse
The Pygmalion Effect helps you keep the faith in your spouse and in the marriage. You believe that there is healing from the power of love. Maybe it’s perspective, but your unquantifiable faith builds up your spouse. It is believing with all your heart that your partner can change and your marriage will improve over time. Faith in your partner becomes especially stronger if you have the good side before the current events.
Hoping for Better Days Ahead
When you have hope, you want to see something better–like an improvement in your spouse or your marriage. You believe that nothing is impossible as long as we live–and that includes the difficulties we encounter in our marriage. While it seems that you are existing in a loveless marriage every day, you still believe in your heart that better days lie ahead.
Persevering in Love
With the premise that you have hope in your relationship and faith in your spouse, then you become happy as you persevere in the marriage. You will continue to love, support, and respect your spouse. Additionally, you will nurture your relationship.
You will continue to pray hard and contribute in the marriage in terms of service, affection, finances, or any language of love.
While serving your spouse and working for the marriage, you continue to pray hard that one day, something good will happen and you will both become happier.
The Pygmalion effect has been proven to affect not just spouses but also other relationships, such as parent and child, teacher and student, boss and employee, among others.
As long as we believe in the other person, have positive expectations about the relationship, and cultivate it in love, things will improve. For spouses, the marriage will literally come alive.
How It Affected Our Marriage
We have not really heard about the Pygmalion effect before. I just came across it recently but I think that this applies to my husband more. He has faith in God and in me.
Yes, we experienced the hardest of times. We were off to a rocky start and had a really tumultuous relationship prior to our wedding. Even after having our eldest daughter, our fights could really be “noisy.” We don’t physically hurt each other, but we can get noisy! haha
Thankfully, those days are behind us and we are now happier and more docile. Maybe age has tamed us? Experience? Or I think, we have accepted God’s healing. Hope you will, too. Let the Pygmalion Effect affect your marriage positively, too.
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